2021-11-18 21:05 来源: 土狗爱学习
Just like a band or gang of superheroes needs members who have different talents and powers, a circle of friends should have exactly the same thing.
“It’s important to have diversity and to be able to look for support from a variety of sources,” says clinical and coaching psychologist and founder of the The Positivity Institute, Dr. Suzy Green. “They also help us to keep broader perspective on life.”
“有不同种类的朋友很重要，它能让你从不同的渠道获得帮助。”临床指导心理医生、The Positivity Institute的创始人苏士 格林（Dr. Suzy Green）博士说到：“他们还能帮助我们拓宽对生命的看法。”
Domonique Bertolucci, life coach and author of The Happiness Code, agrees.
“You need different types of friends in the same way that you need food from different food groups. Different types of friends serve different purposes and nourish and enrich our lives in different ways.”
While many of us are lucky to count our real friends on one hand, there are certain types of people it’s good to have around. So, how many do you know?
很多人很幸运有几个数的来的知心朋友，但是跟某些人做朋友也不错。那么，你了解多少呢？THE FRIEND WHO IS UP FOR ANYTHING “时刻准备着”的朋友
People are busy, we get it. But there’s nothing more frustrating than having to reschedule your re-re-re-scheduled catch-up. Everyone needs a friend who you can call at the drop of a hat. A friend who says “hell yeah, I’m up for that”. That’s why it’s good to have a mate who you don’t need to issue a 28-day notice to just to meet for a frappuccino. It’s refreshing (the friend, that is, not necessarily the frappuccino.) “This friend is the flexible, no frills friend who makes your life a breeze. Nothing is ever too hard and they’re open to doing new things and changing plans at short notice,” says Dr. Green. While Bertolucci agrees, “Their enthusiasm is contagious and you always have more fun when they are around.”
我们都知道人们很忙。世界上最令人沮丧的事情莫非是你得一直一直一直一直调整自己的进度表。大家都需要一通电话就随时能现身的朋友，一个说“恩，我马上过来”的朋友。这就是有一个你无须提前28天预约只为喝杯咖啡的好朋友的好处了。这能让人放松（跟这类朋友不是只能喝咖啡）。“他们很随和，不做作，让你的生活过得轻松。任何事情都难不倒他们，他们乐于挑战新事物，一接到通知，他们就会改变原有计划。”格林博士说到。贝托鲁奇也同意这种说法：“他们的热情会感染你，在他们身边，你总是觉着有乐趣。”THE FRIEND WHO YOU ASPIRE TO BE 你想成为他那样的人的朋友
Oprah Winfrey once said: “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher”. And we all need to live life a little bit closer to Oprah. These people challenge you to be the best version of yourself. The only downside is that sometimes they can be infuriating and inspiring in equal measure. Dr. Green’s advice: “This friend is only an important role model if they behave in ways that are authentic and genuine. They will see the best in you and give you important feedback on both your strengths and weaknesses.”